I'm Tired of Playing Games!..But you have to

It's so funny because I don't know that I have met a woman
that has not at some point said, "I'm tired of playing games".
I've even caught a few men uttering the same notion, "Ladies, No
games, PLEASE!". People...this is not realistic!!!

Let's first discuss this on a scientific level.

I want to take this back to Sir Issacc Newton's

laws of Gravity and Motion.

We all should come to expect times of ups

and downs in our relationships. There will

be moments of bliss and happiness. There will

be moments of anger and sadness. These are the

positive and negative forces that are always in motion.

As it pertains to Gravity: Newton's law says- what

goes up must come down. In other words, it's 2005

and your relationship is on the up &up, chances are in 2006,

he will PISS.. YOU... OFF. This is not necessarily bad, but it

should just be expected. This law also tells us that as

distance increases, gravity decreases. That means

that the farther mentally and emotionally you are

from your partner, your desire to play games decreases

because YOU... just... DON'T... care.

Newton's law of motion states - that every

ACTION has a REACTION. So if you FEEL your man

or woman is playing games, (whether it is true or not), then

you are more likely to play games as well.

You can't help how you FEEL. That's

not to say that playing games is right or wrong,

it's just your REACTION.

So, if your man looses his mind and acts

a damn fool with you,...then you need to

REACT in a BIG 'ole way. So that he won't

forget it. (Note: Not returning your

calls, not accepting your calls,

turning his cell phone off,

lying, trying to make you jealous,

are just a few examples of

your man, loosing his mind and

acting a damn fool) There needs to be a

REACTION.

You need to have a balance. Just like

in chess, you make a move, your

opponent makes a move. Unless

there is a power play where you are

allowed to make more than one move.

I do know that if you are always REACTING to

what he's doing, then you loose. Just like in sports,

if you are always on the defense, then you will never win.

It is okay to play games so long as it is not hurtful, but thought

provoking and progressive.

The minute we as women began to recognized

that we should expect the games, that's the

minute we can begin to play.

Please do not get caught off guard and think,

he is sooooo nice. He is not like the rest of

them who play games. Yes he is! He is

exactly like the rest of them.

And if you don't realize it, then YOU...

ARE...NOT...PAYING...ATTENTION!

I know some of you Ladies are probably wondering, Cruise Control, why do you care so much? If I choose not to play games with my man, then that is my choice.

News Flash!!!!! This is not your choice anymore. We as women need to stick together on this one.

I care because me and my friends are tired of dealing with these men who have lost their damn mind and they want to act a damn fool.

We are tired of cleaning up the bullshit that some of you didn't touch, saying the things that some of you should have said, and most importantly, putting him in the place he should have been in all along.

We have taken the high road for too long.

Fuck it!!! Let's just play.

Who is Cruise Control? Ms. Jackson Said this Best in 1986

"This is a story about control, my control. Control of what I say, control of what I do and this time I’m gonna do it my way. I hope you enjoy this as much as I do. Are we ready? I am? Cause it’s all about control. And I’ve got lots of it.

When I was 17, I did what people told me. Did what my father said, and let my mother mold me. But that was long ago. I’m in control, never gonna stop. Control, to get what I want. Control, I got to have a lot. Control, now I’m all grown up!

First time I fell in love I didn’t know what hit me. So young and so naive I thought it would be easy. But now I know I’ve got to take... Control. That’s right, I’m on my own, I’ll call my own shots, thank you. Got my own mind I wanna make my own decisions. When it has to do with my life, I wanna be the one in control.

So let me take you by the hand. And lead you on this dance. Cause what I’ve got is because I took a chance. I don’t wanna rule the world, just wanna run my life. So make your life a little easier when you get the chance just take...Control. Free at last, out here on my own. Now control this. That’s right, career moves I do what’s right for me and me wants to groove. Is that ok? Hop to it! I’m in control (and I love it, that’s right) Control, now I’ve got a lot. Control, now I’m all grown up. I’m in control, I’m in control! Don’t make me lose it." ...Lyrics

The dictionary defines Cruise Control as -

a relaxed and seemingly automatic pace that is easily maintained

This is who I am and how I am in the committed and not so committed romantic relationships that I have developed with members of the opposite sex. Now, this does not mean in any way that I am a controlling person. I'm really not on any level. However, I do practice self control. I am always in control of me and my actions. I don't let the men that I involve myself with control who I am or what I do. Ladies, if you just stick to being yourself and "play your game", then he can't "take you out of your game".

When it comes to your relationship,

remember: you control YOU.

Control - Janet Jackson