Who is Cruise Control? Ms. Jackson Said this Best in 1986

"This is a story about control, my control. Control of what I say, control of what I do and this time I’m gonna do it my way. I hope you enjoy this as much as I do. Are we ready? I am? Cause it’s all about control. And I’ve got lots of it.

When I was 17, I did what people told me. Did what my father said, and let my mother mold me. But that was long ago. I’m in control, never gonna stop. Control, to get what I want. Control, I got to have a lot. Control, now I’m all grown up!

First time I fell in love I didn’t know what hit me. So young and so naive I thought it would be easy. But now I know I’ve got to take... Control. That’s right, I’m on my own, I’ll call my own shots, thank you. Got my own mind I wanna make my own decisions. When it has to do with my life, I wanna be the one in control.

So let me take you by the hand. And lead you on this dance. Cause what I’ve got is because I took a chance. I don’t wanna rule the world, just wanna run my life. So make your life a little easier when you get the chance just take...Control. Free at last, out here on my own. Now control this. That’s right, career moves I do what’s right for me and me wants to groove. Is that ok? Hop to it! I’m in control (and I love it, that’s right) Control, now I’ve got a lot. Control, now I’m all grown up. I’m in control, I’m in control! Don’t make me lose it." ...Lyrics

The dictionary defines Cruise Control as -

a relaxed and seemingly automatic pace that is easily maintained

This is who I am and how I am in the committed and not so committed romantic relationships that I have developed with members of the opposite sex. Now, this does not mean in any way that I am a controlling person. I'm really not on any level. However, I do practice self control. I am always in control of me and my actions. I don't let the men that I involve myself with control who I am or what I do. Ladies, if you just stick to being yourself and "play your game", then he can't "take you out of your game".

When it comes to your relationship,

remember: you control YOU.

Control - Janet Jackson